LDR is not an easy thing.....

How to have a lasting long distance relationship.

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LDR is not an easy thing. It's difficult to make short distant relationship work how much more if you're miles, state, ocean or country apart. It's hard to argue things even if your together. And it's much more difficult if you don't see each other face to face. Not knowing how he'll react or she'll react. However, successful long distance relationships can and do exist. LDR can also survive arguements and misunderstanding. But take note, this should be on both parties. BF and GF involved in the relationship not anybody else.

As we experienced ups and downs in LDR. I ponder on things and on factors on how to give our relationship the chance to survive and thrive.


1. TRUST...TRUST..TRUST....not just mere trust that comes out from the mouth.. but TRUST. with the capital T. R. U. S. T. full trust. Trust your partner even if your felt betrayed before. Trust your partner even if you felt pain before. Trust your partner even if you feel his/she's not trusting you. For in trusting you can find true peace in mind and in heart..... [ikanga saq one friend or nila: konsinsya nalng jd na as imong partner!..ang importante wla kai gbuhat nga da.otan og g.love ra nimo cya... hehehe]

2. Open and constant communication with a touch of honesty..

Open and constant communicati0n with a touch of honesty... Constant communication is one key factor for having a lasting LDR...

Conversation that do not comes with lies, conversations that are true. Lies in between let you fool yourself and your partner.

Conversation or communication that has a touch of honesty. Telling your partner what bothers you, telling your partner what you feel, tellng your partner where you are, whose with you, telling your partner your activity for the day and future plans/activities, telling your partner what you feel, why you feel that way, telling him/her anything and everything that lingers on your head... In this way, you can avoid your partner be freak out on thinking what happened to you. It's not necessary that you'll agree on all things also. Disagreements is quite good in a relationship short distant or long distant for it will make you get to know your partner more. However, in such a way there is that something or things that will bind the two of you in which you came up with a unanimous decision.

In this way also, letting your partner know what you are up to for the day will let him/her feel you're included in her/his day to day activities even if your miles, state or country apart.

3. Do things together despite the distance. Defy the distance. Distance is not the reason you will not do the same things at a time. Do things together than the usual phone call or instant messaging. Right now, I'm still on the stage on encouraging him to do things together as we're still striving to survive each day without each other's side. I'm sending him emails and after work sending him quotes. But needs still to encourage him to be showy enough to me... hehehe..

[to him: anyways, it's not too late myBanako to change... and i just love you the way you are and the way you show how you love me...]


4. Talk about the future, set plans together. Have hope and faith that those will come into reality. Nothing is impossible you just have enough patience and faith that everything will turn out fine and alright in the perfect time set by Him.

Me and myBanako already have plans and hopefully in time, this December everything will turn out alright as we fulfill those plans, our plans, our dreams, our future together.

5. Don't lose grip, hold each other not so tight but enough that you will not let go of the love that was/is/will shared. Still continue to love and hold each others hand. Some way or another there is that rope that binds the two of you. There is that intangible connection that on both ends you and your partner is holding or me and myBanako is holding....


There are lots of things or factors as I search on Google for things that will have lasting LDR. I just came up with 5. If you're on LDR you might as well check out the links below for reference and also for some LDR things and tips. Those might actually help.

WikiHow: http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Long-Distance-Relationship-Work
Fave LDR site: http://www.lovingfromadistance.com/
Do's and Don'ts on LDR: http://ezinearticles.com/
LDR comments: http://www.aish.com/d/w/48964126.html


Only believe in two things, Him for guiding you through your journeys and what we so called Destiny....

and the second one....

believe in your LOVE, as it will only take the two of you on your journey... Trust me, LDR will work and worth fighting and waiting for...

ciao!.. be happy and stay in love.. don't ever let go...